detaching in love

detachment is key to recovery from codependency.  it strengthens our healthy relationships – the ones that we want to grow and flourish.  it benefits our difficult relationships – the ones that are teaching us to cope.  it helps us!  detachment is not something we do once.  it’s a daily behavior in recovery.  we detach with the understanding that life is unfolding exactly as it needs to, for others and ourselves.  the way life unfolds is good, even when it hurts. and ultimately, we an benefit from even the most difficult situations.

- the language of letting go, melody beattie